Do guy ‘vet’ girls? Absolutely.
I was recently on a short vacation in my home state and went on a day’s tour of one of our famous national parks. It was fun. For me and all the other tourists! However, I had booked a tour van beforehand, so I didn’t have to drive and could enjoy the scenery.
I was the last one in the van and sat down by a very good-looking guy. I instantly saw that he was a lot younger than me, (oh, sigh!). Still, we spent a lot of the day together, chatting about our respective lives. He had recently broken up with his girlfriend and I concluded he was a) lonely b) slightly depressed and c) looking for someone new.
Anyway, we talked all day, and he told me a great deal about himself. I talked about myself a bit and my work, and we exchanged like stories. Although, certainly, at the end of the day, he had been to more places than I had been and quite certainly had a lot more money.
Here’s where it gets interesting. He spent most of the day either talking to me or following me around. Why? Because I’m fabulously attractive? Well, probably (for my age.) More like, he is lonely and likes to be around a woman. Was he interested? To an extent but he also certainly took note of the crow’s-feet and other wrinkles. He got my email to send me some park pictures, but, I doubt I’ll hear from him again.
It was fun. Was I being vetted? Yes, I was. Did I pass? No, too old. What about him? Cute, right? Very, and sexy. Hmm. But… This guy made his money building a CBD enterprise that was successfully and that he recently sold. How do I feel about that? Well…I’m totally opposed to all CBD products. I have been against marijuana forever and felt that the jury was out about how much real damage this ‘natural, and herbal remedy’ could do. Since I doubt my new friend reads all the health bulletins I read, he probably doesn’t know about the absolute crisis going on in the medical field with older patients using CBD products that combine poorly with their other medications. Patients are having severe adverse reactions to include heart problems, breathing and blood pressure issues. This is drop-dead kind of stuff. So…the data is trickling in as to the effects of this now legal drug.
Bottom line, what does this mean? It means that the two of us have some very significant and fundamental differences in our value systems. Is this important? Very. Men tend to have a very discerning radar for a woman’s beauty and almost any little thing can mar the package. Women tend to be much more sensitive to the man’s character flaws and less on beauty, although, that does matter.
So, seriously, how many relationships fail over beauty issues versus failure over character flaws? Do we need to think about that one very hard?
So, girls…let me be the nineteenth person to tell you not to fall into bed with Mr. Wonderful after you first meet. The temptation can be very great. And, you may think I say that because you don’t want him to think you are ‘easy’. True, but there’s a lot more to it than that. The guy who pressured you into the sack may think you’re easy or maybe he’s not really all that interested. It can, curiously enough, be that he is very interested, doesn’t have a lot of self-confidence (for whatever reason). He wants you in the sack so you will think of him, not from the neck up, but from the waist down. Maybe he doesn’t feel so great about himself and doesn’t want you to spend a lot of time getting to know him, ‘cause, what will you think then? It is so important to get to know the guy before the fun stuff starts so you can form some kind of idea about who this guy really is.
I did like on my trip, and it was great getting all that male attention. Just as well that I didn’t pass the vetting test. I might have been forced to give him a piece of my mind about all that CBD crap. That wouldn’t have worked, would it?
CEW
P.S.: Final note, if you don’t hear back from the guy in three days, you won’t hear back from him. Oh, sigh.




