The Oaks, home and art studio of the world famous artist, Maxfield Parrish, is up for sale for one million dollars. The Oaks, the backdrop of many of the Parrish murals and paintings will be sold to a private party and never to be seen by the public again. The State of New Hampshire should buy this historical landmark and preserve it for the public.

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Restored Pied Piper returns to namesake bar

By Carl Nolte

Updated 8:51 am PDT, Friday, August 23, 2013

Photo: Paul Chinn, The Chronicle

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A team of installers hang “The Pied Piper of Hamelin” behind the bar at the Palace Hotel after the owners decided against selling it.

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With a Champagne toast and a deep bow to more than a century of tradition, the famous Maxfield Parrish painting “The Pied Piper of Hamelin” returned to San Francisco’s Palace Hotel on Thursday.

The painting, which is 16 feet long, 6 feet tall and weighs more than 250 pounds, was reinstalled over the bar at the hotel’s Pied Piper Bar and Grill, where it had hung for years.

It was a magnificent comeback for the Pied Piper. Only five months ago, the Palace Hotel’s ownership had removed the painting and planned to sell it at auction. They said the Pied Piper was too valuable and too important a cultural image to be displayed in public – particularly in a bar, no matter how fancy.

But the announcement produced a huge public outcry and Honolulu’s Kyo-Ya Hotels and Resorts changed its mind. Instead, the Pied Piper, valued at between $3 million and $5 million, or perhaps more, was cleaned and refurbished and returned to its place of honor.

“People identify that painting with San Francisco,” said Mike Buhler, executive director of San Francisco Heritage, which played a leading role in calling for the Pied Piper’s return. “They have restored a small part of the city’s soul.”

Buhler was looking forward to being in a crowd of invited guests on hand to see the painting unveiled at 5 p.m., the city’s traditional cocktail hour. The painting was brought into the hotel early Thursday morning and carefully remounted over the bar in its namesake room.

The auction plan

The original plan was to offer it for sale at an auction of fine art in New York in May. It was expected to bring a handsome price. Some years ago, a private collector reportedly had offered the Palace $7 million for the Pied Piper, only to be told it was not for sale at any price.

But then the Palace ownership announced it would be auctioned off, and the Kyo-Ya company, the hotel, and the media were deluged with e-mails, letters, phone calls and protests. The protesters included everyone from bar patrons, to historians, to San Francisco Mayor Ed Lee, and thousands of others.

“The ownership was surprised,” said Palace general manager Christophe Thomas. The company’s original plan, he said, was to change the look and feel of the bar and grill, “but people liked it (the painting) very much, so it was decided to leave it exactly as it was.”

That, in fact, was the preservationists’ point.

“The Pied Piper Bar and Grill without the painting is simply not the same place,” Buhler said. “Now it has been made whole. It really represents the essence of San Francisco.”

The painting, which includes three adult figures and 24 children following a colorfully garbed man playing a flute, is based on a medieval German legend about a mysterious man who first drove the rats out of the town of Hamelin, was treated badly by the city fathers and in revenge lured the town’s children away. The model for the Pied Piper is said to be Parrish himself.

1909 commissioning

The painting was commissioned by the Palace in 1909 for the Men’s Bar at the hotel. It cost $6,000 and was unveiled for the first time with great ceremony in December of that year.

Parrish, one of the most notable painters and illustrators of his time, did two other large paintings for hotels. “Old King Cole,” originally painted by Parrish for the Knickerbocker Hotel in New York City, now hangs in the St. Regis Hotel there. A third large Parrish painting was commissioned for the Sherman Hotel in Chicago.

The Pied Piper was moved from the Palace bar three times: during the Prohibition years, when it was displayed in the hotel’s Rose Room; from 1989 to 1991, when the Pied Piper was on display at the M.H. de Young Memorial Museum while the Palace Hotel was being refurbished; and from March 22, when it was taken down for possible sale, until Thursday.

The painting received a thorough cleaning, removing years of grime from the long years of exposure to the aura of a bar, including a film of airborne tobacco smoke from the days when smoking in bars was fashionable.

 

 

George Burns and Gracie Allen

 

Decline of Female Happiness: The Devaluation of the Female

These Are the 5 Best Countries for Women

Nordic nations are among the best places to be a woman, a survey finds. By Sintia Radu, Staff Writer Jan. 23, 2018, at 12:01 a.m.

Using measurements to rate life satisfaction; European researchers were able to obtain results of a satisfaction survey from 9,000 women on: human rights, gender equality, income equality, progress and safety. The Nordic nations continue to come in first with women and their overall satisfaction with life. In the 16-24-year-old groups, the top countries were: Denmark, German, Netherlands, Austria and Poland. In the 65-74-year-old group, the top countries were Denmark, Germany, Ireland, The Netherlands and Finland. Although the US comes in at #8 in overall life satisfaction of the population in general, apparently not so much for women.

Historically, the role of women in society, most societies in the world, was that of mother, wife, grandmother, caretaker, cook, cleaner and bottlewasher. There was a mystical quality to women that men could never define and did not seek to do so. See the clip of George Burns and Gracie Allen. Once again, Gracie pursues her own particular pretzel logic and George simply shrugs philosophically and gets on with his day.

Once upon a time, women were in labor rooms without husbands, at the hairdressers with other women, trying on clothes with other women and shopping and cleaning with other women. Today, there are no ‘hairdressers’ anymore, there are Unisex hair salons, and Unisex toilets. Husbands and boyfriends absolutely clutter up space in Victoria Secret underwear shops ‘helping’ the women pick out lingerie. Keep the door closed when you are trying on a bra, ladies. Although I do think that dads in the delivery room is a good idea; gives them a little idea about how much work it is, but the other stuff. Humm.

Men love to classify, quantify, codify and create measurable units. The main thing that women do, have done and have done for centuries, is to provide the glue that is required to keep the family together and running smoothly. Because this quality cannot be measured the way a paycheck can be measured; people (men) tend to devalue its worth. As women move more and more into the workplace, they are being put into the position of being ‘measurable’ for worth in the same way that men have been. To the point at which the modern male has begun to ‘assert his right’ and demand that the wife go back to work, but that also she brings in ‘adequate’ compensation.

Since men are frequently so unable to either understand or appreciate the non-quantifiable aspects of their wives/mothers, unfortunately, like an old song, you don’t know what you have until it’s gone.

The new age woman is overvalued for her looks and pocketbook; so, when her looks are fading, by God, she better start working on the pocketbook. The following article talks about dissatisfaction amongst modern women and the reasons for that. One very important point is birth control. Birth control is a boon to women to help them control the total number of children they choose to have.

However, the negative side of that coin is that modern men, well knowing about birth control, pressure women into having sex outside of marriage. Should a pregnancy occur (heavens!) it is usually considered the woman’s ‘fault’ because she was ‘supposed to handle this.’ Also, the advent of crime-free abortions has put pressure on relationships. There are probably no statistics out there to cover the number of boyfriends and husbands who have insisted that the woman have an abortion. Then, also the relationship breakups that occur in the aftermath of those decisions.

I will tell two stories, to finish my tale of two women I knew and what happened to them.

Birth control pills started really coming on the market in the 60’s and by the 70’s lots of women were taking them. Doctors and pharmaceutical companies kept playing with the dosages of the pills and correcting the levels and by the 80’s, everybody was on the pill. In the early 80’s, I had a female coworker in my office. She was very pretty, actually a former beauty queen and divorced.

She decided that she wanted to get married again and became very dissatisfied with the response of men that she dated. Mostly, the expectation that she ‘put out’. In keeping with her new plan, she decided to do things differently. “No ticky, no laundry.” She would accept dates and inform her shocked companions that she was looking to get married. There would be no ‘putting out’ until there was an engagement ring on her finger. We would be endlessly entertained by stories of men stomping away from her door, enraged at her cheek. Imagine accepting a dinner with no intention of proper payback. Indeed!!!! In the end, she did find a guy willing to play by her rules and they got hitched. Last I heard, they still were married with two kids. Harump!

The second story I have to tell is about a young lady, twenty-eight years of age, to whom I was giving some financial counseling. She was engaged to be married and was living with her fiancée. She came to me after the first wedding was called off and they started to have money problems.

The story was that she was living in Orange county, going to college, when she met him. They got together, he proposed, and she accepted. However; he lived in Los Angeles county. He talked her into moving in with him ‘because they were going to get married anyway.’ Seemed like a good idea until the wedding date approached. He began to demand that she pay half the rent since they were ‘sharing’ the apartment. She was still a college student, working as a waitress and commuting a long distance to school. He was well established in his career and made about four times her pay. He would not back down off his position.

This went on for about two months. I finally recommended that she contact her family in the mid-west and request an airplane ticket to fly home when school was finished. She did, and they sent her one.

As soon as she packed her bag to leave, the guy had a complete breakdown. As a sober alcoholic, he relapsed and drank. A very unhappy ending for everyone.

The lesson here is that the girl in this scenario was always worth way more to him and the relationship than half the rent. She wasn’t just a casual roommate. To try and attempt to put their relationship on a ‘business’ footing was ridiculous. Also, given their very unequal earning abilities, clearly unfair. Nothing short of losing her could get this guy to wake up and smell the coffee.

In households all over the country, men continue to underestimate and undervalue their wives and girlfriends. Women, feeling the disrespect and disregard, are using their new-found earning power to exercise greater options and leave the relationships. Who wins in these situations? There are a lot of egotistical, lonely men out there who are functionally incapable of acknowledging or appreciating any woman over the age of thirty. Too, there are many bitter divorced women who end up convinced that their only value to the man was sex and the size of their paycheck. No one is happy or satisfied and the children of these unhappy breakups will not fair any better. Kids continually take sides on the part of the ‘right’ parent and despise the ‘wrong’ parent.

I lost touch with the young lady from Orange County and don’t know how their relationship ended. However, married or not, I have seen the aftermath of so many similar breakups and divorces to predict the ending.

So, to all the bean counter-men and to all the women who allow themselves to be pigeon-holed into a ‘numbers’ category; know that entire generations of people in this culture and in others have depended on the invisible hands of moms and grandmoms to keep the gears turning. Unfortunately, their efforts defy efforts to quantify and classify. The greatest thing that can be said it the feeling in the room when they are no longer there. Empty.

The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness – Betsey Stevenson

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By many objective measures the lives of women in the United States have improved over the past 35 years, yet we show that measures of subjective well‐ being indicate that women’s happiness has declined both absolutely and relative to men.  The paradox of women’s declining relative well‐being is found across various datasets, measures of subjective well‐being, and is pervasive across demographic groups and industrialized countries.  Relative declines in female happiness have eroded a gender gap in happiness in which women in the 1970s typically reported higher subjective well‐being than did men.  These declines have continued and a new gender gap is emerging—one with higher subjective well‐being for men.    This draft: October 16, 2008

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By many measures the progress of women over recent decades has been extraordinary: the  gender wage gap has partly closed; educational attainment has risen and is now surpassing that of  men; women have gained an unprecedented level of control over fertility; technological change in the  form of new domestic appliances has freed women from domestic drudgery; and women’s freedoms  within both the family and market sphere have expanded.  Blau’s 1998 assessment of objective  measures of female well‐being since 1970 finds that women made enormous gains.  Labor force outcomes have improved, as women’s real wages have risen for all but the least educated women,women’s wages relative to those of men have increased for women of all races and education levels,  and female labor force participation has risen to record levels both absolutely and relative to that of  men (Blau and Kahn 2007).  In turn, better market outcomes for women have likely improved their  bargaining position in the home by raising their opportunities outside of marriage.  Yet we document in this paper that measures of women’s subjective well‐being have fallen both absolutely and relatively to that of men.  While the expansion in women’s opportunities has been extensively studied, the concurrent decline in subjective well‐being has largely gone unnoted.

One exception to this is Blanchflower and Oswald (2004), who study trends in happiness in the United States and Britain noting that while women report being happier than men, the trend in white  women’s happiness in the United States has been negative.

We will show in this paper that women’s happiness has fallen both absolutely and relative to men’s in a pervasive way among groups and that  this has occurred through much of the industrialized world. Social changes that have occurred over the past four decades have increased the opportunities available to women and a standard economic framework would suggest that these expanded  opportunities for women would have increased their welfare.  However, others have noted that with the expansion of opportunities have come costs and that men may have been the beneficiaries of the women’s movement.  In particular, many sociologists have argued that women’s increased  opportunities for market work have led to an increase in the total amount of work that women do.

Arlie Hochschild’s The Second Shift argued that women’s movement into the paid labor force was not  accompanied by a shift away from household production and they were thus now working a “second  shift”.  However, time use surveys do not bear this out.  Aguiar and Hurst (2007) document relatively  equal declines in total work hours since 1965 for both men and women, with the increase in hours of  market work by women offset by large declines in their non‐market work.  Similarly, men are now working fewer hours in the market and more hours in home production.  Women, she argued, have maintained the emotional  responsibility for home and family: a point that is perhaps best exemplified by the familiar refrains of a  man “helping” around the house or being a good dad when “babysitting” the kids.

A recent paper by Alan Krueger (2007) sheds some light on this issue by examining the degree of  pleasantness and unpleasantness in daily activities.  Assuming that one’s enjoyment of activities has  been unchanged, he finds that women’s new mix of daily activities leaves them hedonically unchanged.   However, men have had a net increase in the pleasantness of activities in their day.  Thus, according to  Krueger’s estimates, between 1966 and 2005 men became better off relative to women.     Social and legal changes have given individuals more autonomy over individual and family  decision making, including rights over marriage, children born out of wedlock, the use of birth control,  abortion, and divorce (Stevenson and Wolfers, 2007).  Once again, men may have been able to  disproportionately benefit from these increased opportunities: Akerlof, Yellen, and Katz (1996) argue  that sexual freedom offered by the birth control pill resulted in women being pressured into having  sex outside of marriage and no bargaining power to force a shotgun marriage in the face of an  unwanted pregnancy.

During this period there have also been large changes in family life.  Divorce  rates doubled between the mid‐1960s and the mid‐1970s, and while they have been falling since the  late 1970s, the stock of divorced people has continued to grow (Stevenson and Wolfers, 2008).   In  addition to divorce, there has been an increase in the rate of children born out of wedlock that was  concentrated in the 1960s and early 1990s.  As a result of increases in both divorce and out‐of‐ wedlock childbearing by age 15 about half of all children in the US are no longer living with both  biological parents (Elwood and Jencks 2001).

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What final conclusions can be made from this large grouping of facts. Women in Nordic countries seem to be very content with their lives, young and old. Women in America are not. Reason? Probably the basis of another blog. In less than 50 years we are a society with fewer children, fewer odious household tasks, more freedoms for men in terms of having to shoulder the entire burden of household expenses themselves. Yet, divorce is up and fewer people are happily married or even happy. European countries have gone through the same basic social changes we have in the US but seem to be handling it better. It’s a puzzle. I would love comments from readers on this one.

Yes, the alarm rings: 5:15 a.m. with the most obnoxious radio station going. I groan and get out of bed long enough to hit the coffee button and feed the cat. Sam waits anxiously, scared to death I might forget him and his food dish. As if!

I get to my early morning meditation meeting and then I am off to the mall. I am using the MyFitnessPal phone app for fitness and it tracks my steps. Today I did 3,500 steps which is not great, but it is early, and it gets done.

I discovered the Mall one day when it was raining, and I didn’t feel like swimming. It was early (8 a.m.) and I wasn’t sure they would even be open. To my surprise, they were and there was a Starbucks right there, waiting with a hot cup of coffee and hot buns. What more to ask for?

The entire loop of the Mall, top, and bottom is, I believe 1.5 miles. I have been back a number of times and have discovered a little-known truth; this has become the senior walk path. A virtual army of seniors in singles and pairs are busy marching the mall perimeter. I have to be careful to not loiter, should I get into someone’s way. I see many of the same people day after day. After their marches, they are at Starbucks or the café section.

Why? Well, it’s heated in the winter and cooled in the summer. It is clean and swept daily. There are restrooms that are clean with toilet paper and soap. The hand dryers work and nothing smells bad. Plus, it is free to walk whereas, even the local Rec Department charges $1.50 per day to walk and use the weights.

These are all good things. But, are they the only things? What about getting out into the crisp, cool Autumn air and filling your lungs, kicking some leaves? What happened to that idea?

The last consideration which is actually, more the first, is that the malls are safe. Security guards prowl around outside in minitrucks and on foot. Shopkeepers are busy setting up their shops for opening. The last item is that the homeless are not welcome.

Wow, let’s all frown at that unhappy thought. The elderly and the very young are really barometers of our society. People in their 60s, 70s, and 80s know very well they no longer have the physical strength to ward off a street attack.  Should one happen, the old adage is ‘Where’s a cop when you need one?” Well, where they are is extremely busy patrolling the streets.

I would not call my little town in the American Southwest poor or economical downtrodden. There is actually a pretty healthy economy here. However, the rise in homelessness is acute here as in many places. Although people are homeless for many different reasons (time for another blog) one unhappy similarity is that the homeless can be unpredictable. This is okay when you are a 35 year- old cop weighing in at 200 pounds of muscle, complimented with a ton of expensive gear. Not so great for the 75-year-old armed with one lightweight walking stick and maybe a phone.

What we see is that the elderly and mothers with babies in strollers are opting to frequent spaces where they can feel safe. I feel the same way. I might not be frail, but I get really tired of getting sized up when I go into a convenience store for a coke. Then to be greeted by the sometimes aggressive “Excuse me, Ma’am. Can you help me out?” If I am feeling generous it forces me to open my purse to search for money. If I’m not feeling generous it allows me to question myself and feel like a stingy jerk for the rest of the day.

So, ‘mo better to walk the mall with a cheery “Good Morning,” to my fellow walkers and have my hands and mind free to focus on what I am there for; taking a walk!

 

 

 

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