5 things all unfaithful people regret after they cheat
No matter how or when infidelity occurs, there are a few things that all cheaters regret.
Mariel Reimann Jun 01, 2017
No matter how infidelity occurs, there are things that the cheater always regrets. Here are at least five things that these people regret after they have a romance outside of their marriage or relationship:
1. Not realizing what they had before
Cheaters are egocentric people who put their desires above anyone else’s. They have no problem putting everything on the line for something they want. No matter what sort of relationship they are in, they tend to find a new “target,” and go for it.
“I knew I loved her, but I had no idea how deep my feelings for her were when I decided to be unfaithful to her,” a 29-year-old man explains in an open letter to an infidelity specialist. People who are unfaithful regret not realizing how much they loved their partner.
2. Feeling like they need to be unfaithful to be wanted
People who cheat are egocentric, but behind the façade is great insecurity. This person is someone who previously used seduction as a tool to measure their acceptance. They lack confidence when they aren’t actively involved in a romantic “chase” for affection.
They dream of falling in love with someone and being able to stop feeling like they need to seduce someone to know their value. These people fall in love, but they have an innate “need” to know that they are still irresistible. This is when they start to feel tempted.
3. Not confessing their infidelity (or not being able to control it)
One of the most common traits in people who are unfaithful is that they think they can control everything. They think that if they cover it well enough, no one will see it.
In the previous letter to the infidelity specialist, the man explains, “I had almost completely forgotten about this event until one day, I was napping at my girlfriend’s house and she woke me by slapping me across the face.”
She had discovered his infidelity, and she wasn’t happy. After a while, they were able to resolve the issues and get back together, but her trust for him wasn’t the same as before.
4. What they’ve done will deprive them of freedom
People who cheat love freedom, and infidelity can be a way of using that freedom in their eyes. However, when one partner is unfaithful, the other will never give them the freedom or trust they once had.
This leads to future partners being unable to trust them, and leads to a life of imprisonment instead of freedom.
5. How much pain they caused their loved one because of their mistake
The chances of living happily ever after once an affair is discovered isn’t likely, but it’s possible. Statistics show that only 31% of marriages last after the affair has been discovered or admitted to.
People who are unfaithful to their partners regret causing their loved one so much pain and heartache. Even if the couple decides to stay together, it’s very hard for them to have a trust-based, happy relationship.
If you’re thinking about cheating, just don’t do it. You have everything to lose
This article has been adapted and translated from the original “5 cosas de las que TODOS los INFIELES se ARREPIENTEN luego de traicionar” which was originally published on familias.com.
Mariel Reimann is the content manager for familias.com. She studied law at the National University of Cordoba and currently resides in Salt Lake City, Utah.