Michael Moore, film maker, was recently on ABC’s – The View which is a far-left talk show on in the morning slot. He actually complimented Trump on his ability to out fox the Democrats and win the majority of the electoral college votes. The is a surprising remark coming from such an ultra-left wing guy. He ended by saying the answer to the next election is to get out the vote and lastly, to dismantle the electoral college.

I agree with the first and not the second. Middle America does need to have a say. What my Democratic friends still do not seem to grasp, at even this late date, is the extent to which many Americans hated Hillary. They didn’t like Bill much, but they really hated Hillary.

Here in Fresno county there was a popular sign posted on lawns. It read ‘Anybody but Hillary.’ Many of the votes for Trump were really votes against Hillary. There were a ton of people who did not want her in the White House.

That said, left-wing media news is spending about 89% of their time attacking Trump, the man, because they have little to say about the issues. Too bad because he is a pretty big target to attack. The good that he has done so far to is impress car manufacturers that if they keep closing American auto plants and pulling them down to Mexico, those cars are going to get heavily taxed. He is revamping the VA medical system to get more help for veterans, which is sorely needed. He is rebuilding the military which is also sorely needed.

For the next election, my word to my Republican friends is, don’t vote for a TV personality, no matter how charismatic he/she may appear. Vote for someone with a proven political track record.

For my Democratic friends; if you want to have a chance with the next election, find someone the Republicans don’t hate so badly. Also, Tom Hanks and Opra Winrey are not going to cut it. Regardless of their popularity, they have no political background. You may say, ‘Well, look at Ronald Regan’. Regan was the president of the Screen Actors Guild for some time before he was governor of California. He served as governor for two terms before he ran for president. He was known as ‘the great communicator’ and did well, but still had his problems too with the Iran-Contra scandal.

Obama spend two terms keeping the lid down on things after the scandals of Bill Clinton. He did do a good job of that, just not a great job on anything else. Americans are ready for a change. Regardless of what happens with Trump, he may be paving the way for some new attitudes.

Back in the days when I worked for the insurance company and worked in an office, I had an interesting – odd (?) coworker.

Let’s call her Alice. Alice was about 46-47 years old, married and living in a condo with her husband. She was smart, had worked for the company a long time and was extremely well thought of by management. Alice was tall, maybe 5’10” and fat. Not, just a little fat. Really fat. I guesstimated her weight, (compared to mine) to be about 400 to 450 pounds. When she walked, her body went one way and her butt the other. I used to say her butt was so big, it had its own zip code.

Anyway, as luck would have it, Alice had an accident. Slip and fall. It wasn’t in some greasy spoon restaurant, some low-end market, some dirty train station where they never clean up. No, it was in her own kitchen. Since she was such a fastidiously clean person, I assume her home was too. Nope, Alice slipped on a piece of lettuce in her own kitchen.

As a long time member of Jazzercise groups, yoga and dance; at my advanced age (65) I can still do a 3/4 splits. If I go slowly and don’t rush it. And, it hurts if I try to go down too far. So, in a word, I am pretty flexible and I have trouble doing the splits.

Alice, slipped, fell and came down in a perfect splits on the floor; one leg in front and one leg in back. My entire face winched when I heard her tell what had happened. No doubt there was gigantic pain involved in that fall and probably, a number of things ripped and tore in the process. I am certain she was in excruciating pain for some time.

It was after this accident, when she was back at work, that she started a very drastic diet program. She went to a diet doctor, they put her on a liquid protein drink everyday and greyish, chocolate bars to go with. That was all she ate for one year. At the end of the year she had lost 100 pounds. Whew! What a deal! When she was finally able to move again, they had her walking everyday too.

The question is: Why wait so long? Why does the problem (and the consequences) have to be so bad to take action? I get into the gym about three times a week. Over and over again, I see enormously heavy women pumping away furiously on bikes trying to get those pounds off. There are some older men too in there, same story. Again, why wait until you are on the point of needing surgery to take the slightest action?

Bizarre. Something about women seems to hold them back from the necessary steps of taking take of themselves. Seems to me, that in general, men don’t seem to have those reservations and seem to be frequently pretty obsessive about their diet and exercise programs. I see many men who are ‘gym buddies’ and get together to work out and share results. Women don’t seem to do that very much.

Anyway, the Hi-Fitness classes at the gym are always very full and they are mostly 20 and 30 somethings. And, a lot of those gals seem to have friends in the group and to bond with other women. So … maybe things are changing … a little.

Refugees of the Syrian Civil War or Syrian refugees are citizens and permanent residents of Syrian Arab Republic, who have fled from their country since the onset of the Syrian Civil War in 2011 and have sought asylum in other countries.

In 2016, the United Nations (UN) identified 13.5 million Syrians requiring humanitarian assistance, of which more than 6 million are internally displaced within Syria, and over 4.8 million are refugees outside of Syria.^[31] In January 2017, UNHCR counted 4,863,684 registered refugees.^[1] Turkey is the largest host country of registered refugees with over 2.7 million Syrian refugees.^[3][32][33] Assistance to internally displaced persons (IDPs) within Syria, and Syrian refugees in neighbouring countries, is planning largely through the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees (UNHCR).

In 2016, pledges have been made to the UNHCR, by various nations, to permanently resettle 170,000 registered refugees.^[34]

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Number and location of people fleeing the violence in Syria, 13 June 2012.

The Arab Spring uprisings in Tunisia, Egypt, Libya, Bahrain and Yemen inspired protests in Syria, followed by Syrian Army intervention.^[35] As Syria descended into civil war,^[36] it quickly became divided into

Refugees of the Syrian Civil War or Syrian refugees are citizens and permanent residents of Syrian Arab Republic, who have fled from their country since the onset of the Syrian Civil War in 2011 and have sought asylum in other countries.

In 2016, the United Nations (UN) identified 13.5 million Syrians requiring humanitarian assistance, of which more than 6 million are internally displaced within Syria, and over 4.8 million are refugees outside of Syria.^[31] In January 2017, UNHCR counted 4,863,684 registered refugees.^[1] Turkey is the largest host country of registered refugees with over 2.7 million Syrian refugees.^[3][32][33] Assistance to internally displaced persons (IDPs) within Syria, and Syrian refugees in neighbouring countries, is planning largely through the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees (UNHCR).

In 2016, pledges have been made to the UNHCR, by various nations, to permanently resettle 170,000 registered refugees.^[34]

Number and location of people fleeing the violence in Syria, 13 June 2012.

The Arab Spring uprisings in Tunisia, Egypt, Libya, Bahrain and Yemen inspired protests in Syria, followed by Syrian Army intervention.^[35] As Syria descended into civil war,^[36] it quickly became divided into a complex patchwork of shifting alliances and territories between the Assad government, rebel groups, ethnic groups, and Islamic extremists. By May it was estimated that no more than 300 Syrian refugees had crossed into Turkey.^[37] Turkey set up a small camp for those refugees and reported it was preparing for “a worst-case scenario” should refugee numbers increase.^[37] By mid-May, about 700 refugees from Tel Kazakh had fled into Lebanon,^[38] and the village of Wadi Khaled in northern Lebanon received another 1,350.^[39] With the siege of Jisr al-Shughour, the situation on the Turkish-Syrian border deteriorated and thousands fled in anticipation of a Syrian Army attack.^[40] Initially it was reported that about 2,500 Syrians crossed the border.^[40] The number of refugees housed in Turkish camps exceed 10,000 by mid June,^[41][42] and was estimated at 8,500 in Lebanon^[43]where the total refugee population was estimated at over 20,000. As Syrian troops amassed at the Turkish border, the flow increased to hundreds of refugees a day by 23 June,^[44] reaching a total of 11,700 refugees.^[45]

Financial aid[edit]

Figures above are donations to international organizations as compiled by the Financial Tracking Service, of the United Nations Office for the Coordination of Humanitarian Affairs^[155] Not included are: government spending on domestic hosting and resettlement. Private donations are from individuals and organizations. United Nation’s donations are from unearmarked funds not attributable to specific member states. Figures for Turkey include expenditures not tracked by the FTS.^[156][157]

Aid delivery[edit]

Zaatari refugee camp, Jordan

Financial aid from government, non-government, and private donors to support Syrian refugees is largely channeled through established aid organizations, and national government agencies. These organizations and agencies deliver aid directly to refugees in the form of food, education, housing, clothing and medical care, along with migration and resettlement services. Complete figures for aid delivery since 2011 are not available. The table below shows cumulative known aid delivered by the largest aid organizations, between April 2011 and December 2015^{[158] . en.wikipedia, 2017}

Have loaded the My Fitness Pal app on my computer and my phone. It creates a diary of the food I eat everyday and the calories. They have a large library of food choices and have the calories counted for all the major fast food restaurants and stuff sold in the markets too. I am able to keep track of all the little nitsy items that are bringing me down like butter, jam, jelly, Oreo cookies and the like. It also tracks exercise for the day. I have a weight goal and it calculates the calories in food offset by the calories burned in exercise. It also keeps track of the total sugars in food. For diabetics and pre-diabetics this is very important because hidden sugars can be a killer.

I am frequently surprised by how much sugar foods either do or don’t have! The biggest killer of all, of course, white corn syrup. It has the highest sugar content of any known food and it will shoot your sugar readings off the chart! Bon Appetite.

It is many a college professor who looks at his or her grade list after a major test and sees, with a sinking heart, the numbers of D’s and F’s on the list. This is not good.

It is not good for the students because there is a chance they will have to redo the class. It is not good for financial aid because there is a chance the student’s GPA will drop and financial aid may be lost.

It is not good for administration because they want students to pass the class, first time if possible and repeats don’t make anyone very happy.

It is not good for the teacher because he/she looks like a) an ogre out to eat students or b) inept and unable to teach the students in a way that they can learn.

So, which is it? Mean teacher, inept teacher or deficient students? Maybe none.

Instead of looking at teachers as being ogres maybe what we need to see is a lack of flexibility. Instead of inept teachers maybe we need to look at adapting lesson plans and tests to the ability of students as we find them. Instead of thinking of deficient students maybe we need to think of students who need more scaffolding in certain difficult subjects.

Time and time again I have found in many classes that students commonly fall into certain groupings. Those are the A/B students, the C/D students and the F students The A/B group usually need the least amount of help and can figure things out on their own. These are the students who will figure out the class and the teacher and find a way to get that high grade (with or without your help.)

The C/D student is trying but frequently failing and is the one who needs the most help in getting that passing grade.

The F student is the one who may have thrown in the towel before they ever walked through your door. This student may have any number of issues going on and for whom you may be limited in your ability to help.

So, back to the groups we can help and for whom our input is the most important. As stated before, the A/B students will fight to get that grade. However, even they can be stumped and stymied by really difficult subjects.

While in Korea I went to work for a college where my teammates were dumping a mountain of paper on their students. The copy machines were humming constantly and on the verge of breaking down with the number of copies. Students were stuffing loose sheets of paper into notebooks to be found later (or not). There was a lot of chaos and confusion in these lesson plans. The teachers would compensate for all this upheaval by making the test extraordinarily easy and quitting the classes early. Who exactly was winning here?

After one semester of this craziness, I created my own workbook which was then copied by the copy center. Then, I required each student to buy the workbook at a low cost. This eliminated, pretty much, the reams and reams of paper required for copies and me running to the copy machine every six minutes. The students then had one workbook to work from in a consistent pattern. The book was a series of stories followed by questions and a place for written answers.

Each class period (this was an ESL class) we started with one grammar exercise (back of the book) and then went to reading followed by comprehension checking questions. I would give them target words before reading and watch a video related to the story. Then we would read the story and write down answers in the workbook.

Here is the important part; I would work the room and check to be sure each student wrote down an answer in the workbook regardless of how short the answer.  This written answer then became the student’s answer key.

When I created the tests for the class, absolutely everything came out of the book. Although I might talk about this and that, given that these were English language learners, I could not be certain what they would remember or retain of what I said. I felt comfortable that they would remember and be able to find whatever was in the book.

Then, again this is important, all the tests were then open book. To pass the class the student had to simply show up, bring the workbook, write down the answers to questions. Then at test time, they had to know where to go in the book to find the answers, copy those down (from their own handwriting) and complete the test. I found using this system the numbers of D’s and F’s fell rapidly. The A/B students of course made higher grades, but we already knew they would make those grades.

What I have done essentially is shift up the grade level and passing rate of the class. This was a vocational college, I already knew my students weren’t going to be advancing to Harvard so that was not the point. They passed and were happy with the grades. The administration was happy because there was a higher passage rate and higher grades. I was happy because I felt like I was teaching them the best that I could and that they were absorbing as much as they could. They earned the grade and I didn’t have to fudge and ‘give’ anyone anything. They did it themselves.

I did the same thing recently in an American classroom with American students. The content was grammar and students were required to take and pass a very difficult grammar test as part of the course. Although I knew most of them had had all this grammar at some point, this was a group of young adults and they had not studied the subject for probably years.

I started with a workbook (not mine, another author’s) and then I did targeted instruction about which parts of the book I wanted them to study. Some will say that this is studying to the test, maybe, but the subject of grammar is so broad and so wide and has so many rules, the only way to get through the course in a limited amount of time is with targeted instruction.

Once again, we drilled and drilled using the workbook and they wrote the correct answers in the workbook for each lesson. At the end, we had the dreaded test which they took open book (with the workbook). I had a 92% passage ratio for the first test. Each student who did not pass had to redo the test of course, but with the open book format the redos were fairly simple to accomplish.

Summary

Targeted instruction is essential for difficult subjects, average to low level students, English Language Learners and adults who have been away from academics for any period of time.

Use of a workbook that they write in with their own hand is the main instructional method. Research shows that writing the answers down by hand, does in fact reinforce learning.

Finally, testing students with only those items found in the book with an open-book format is a guaranteed formula for success and a high passage ratio.

Lastly, with Native speakers I have found that I can lecture and have them take notes. I can then give them tests on whatever was in the lecture and feel fairly comfortable about their ability to listen and retain what I said. However; many of the students I am seeing are English as a second language learners. They are vastly helped by putting the spoken word into a PowerPoint format that they can then study. I need to keep the questions on tests to primarily those items that I have both covered in class and have presented to them in writing. This gives students who have a little trouble with retaining the spoken word a chance to study and catch up with their peers.

I believe these principles put into practice will ensure a happy ending for students, administration and for you as the teacher. Bon chance! CW

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It was bound to happen: One day, women would awake from the fog of cultural myth-making to realize that having kids is in fact a lot of work, work that was bound to fall disproportionately on them—maybe even too much work, all said, if you want to get other stuff done or have a low-key existence. And they would decide to wait. Maybe forever. That time has come.

The idea that #notallwomen want kids is, of course, not news. It’s out there. It’s a popular essay topic, a subject of much study and debate, and a known quantity at this point, thanks to the tireless efforts of articulate women everywhere to give visibility to this totally understandable position. Just as some women simply know their whole lives that they want to be mothers one day, others know with just as much certainty that it’s not for them. Being among the latter is beyond annoying, because you are peppered with well-meaning doubt-mongering for much of your life: You never know, they say, you might change your mind. Or, You’ll see, it’ll happen to you one day.

But a harder to articulate messy middle exists here, too, ladies for whom those nagging doubts are, in fact, reality: The women who simply don’t know if they want kids or not. Who might change their minds. Who really aren’t sure. They can make it perplexing for everyone, because there is no certainty—or at least, none that lasts for very long. Pregnancy ambivalence is real.

Such types are the subject of a New York piece about the increasing number of women who, for a variety of reasons, are uncertain about procreating and could see it going both ways. What is interesting about these women is that they are paired with men who are totally sure they do want kids, and the issue challenges the stability of their unions. Bryce R. Covert explores the relationship between Lauren Rankin and her boyfriend, Jason. They’ve been together for five happy years, aside from the looming deadline to procreate or bust. Covert writes:

Conventional wisdom would cast this as a baby-hungry woman up against a skittish man, but Lauren’s predicament is exactly the opposite.

“We’ve both known from the beginning of our relationship that he’s always wanted kids, always wanted a family, and I’ve always been ambivalent as hell about it,” she said. She’s wary of the responsibility and commitment of having a child. But life events have forced the issue. She’s 29 and he’s 34, and he wants to have children before he gets to 40. More pressing is that Asbury Park — a four-hour round trip every day. Jason is willing to move somewhere more convenient, but only if they can agree that children are in the future. “That’s the ultimatum,” she said.

Covert writes about the increasing number of women who aren’t sure or don’t want kids these days as compared to men:

In a nationally representative survey of single, childless people in 2011, more men than women said they wanted kids. (On the other hand, more women reported seeking independence in their relationships, personal space, interests, and hobbies.) A different poll from 2013 echoed those findings, with more than 80 percent of men saying they’d always wanted to be a father or at least thought they would be someday. Just 70 percent of women felt the same.

She credits a number of factors in this shift, such as greater reproductive control and changing attitudes, but the more intriguing factor is the simple acknowledgement by more and more women that having kids is going to fall more on them, even when men say they will totally pull their weight:

The majority of today’s young people of both genders seek an egalitarian split in work and family responsibilities. But even if both partners want it, women are aware that they probably won’t get it. Achieving equality in the home is easier said than done: In a 2011 survey of fathers, 65 percent said they believed both parents should spend an equal amount of time on child-rearing. But when asked about their realities, 64 percent said their wives provided more care. “I think before you have kids it’s a lot easier for men to imagine combining work and family,” [sociologist Stephanie] Coontz said. “There’s work involved with having kids that women can anticipate better than men. We saw our moms do it.”

And I should add that we saw our moms do it, but we also see other women do it every single day, and know intimately of their complaints.

Full disclosure: I count myself formerly among this group. I was a woman who had no real plans to have kids. I could imagine a version of my life with them with the right person, but an equally great version without them. I wasn’t necessarily going to go out of my way to have a kid later in life even if I eventually decided I did want kids but discovered it was “too late.” And I knew that I was basically fine either way, but leaning more toward never doing it.

A mixture of things that contributed to this stance: A difficult upbringing, a fear of never having enough money to give a child a stable life, and a fear of giving up my whole identity and career to it. But a big, huge part of it was honestly the fear of not finding the sort of man who I believed without the shadow of a doubt would truly, actually, really, measurably throw all in with me when it came to dividing the work of raising a child and running a house. I had some great boyfriends and everything, but even the best were not equipped or willing to commit to the egalitarian vision I had in mind.

I also know all sorts of women with men who fancy themselves progressive/liberal/feminist-leaning, but I have seen those relationships play out with children, and the women near-universally do all the things, and are secretly resentful about it, and that’s the best-case scenario. I knew I would not even settle for a 60/40 split on division of kid labor.

And then there was the childcare issue, as Covert notes:

The work of raising children also comes with virtually no support. American mothers aren’t guaranteed paid maternity leave or paid sick leave and are offered virtually no help in affording the exorbitant cost of child care. They also face widespread discrimination and a hit to their incomes just for becoming a mom.

For these reasons I feel enormously lucky to have had a wonderful experience with motherhood with a truly supportive partner. But it’s also why I would never have more than one kid. This balance is too tenuous as it is because of the costs and negotiating required; I am quite sure I have tempted fate enough as it is already.

And to be clear, Covert notes, the ambivalence isn’t always about women fearing their partner won’t step up. Often it’s that the women are all too aware of hard they’ve worked to set their lives up in a pleasing, fulfilling way—they don’t want to tempt that fate, either.

She speaks with Jennifer, who is early 30s, and says she doesn’t want to rule anything out, but she’s “acutely aware of the trade-offs” of having children. She likes, for instance, complex adult meals and reading on Sundays (RIP, old life). She’s also a planner, and fears the chaos of a kid adds 1000 percent to the equation.

Then there’s Lynne, whose husband wants kids for sure, and who hoped that in spite of her concerns—rough childhood, mental illness in her family, fear of giving up her career/life—that her feelings would eventually match his. But a late period scare answered the question for her: She didn’t want a baby. Lynne told Covert:

“Even in a progressive, liberal, feminist household like ours, there was still that idea that the woman will stay home and the guy will keep working … or that a man’s work isn’t going to be compromised.” At one point, she asked if he would consider quitting his job to be a stay-at-home father given how much he wanted a baby. “That just wasn’t the plan he had in mind,” she said.

“I just want to have a life and enjoy it and determine, as much as anyone can, which way it goes,” she said. “I want to be able to read a book at the café for a couple of hours if that’s what I feel like doing.”

There are myriad other reasons women are ambivalent about childrearing beyond the autonomy issue. Courtney Y. fears that as a black woman, she would be terrified to have a black son in this climate. For other women, it’s the upheaval. Or lack of maternity leave.  Lauren Rankin says it’s like being stuck in a Choose Your Own Adventure book and not knowing which path to take.. As long as the particulars of childcare and career and flexibility are a gamble for women more than men, more and more of us are going to opt out of this dance. The upside is that maybe then we will have the collective leverage to fix the system.

Good article. However, one very quick way to know is that straight men frequently cannot stop staring at your boobs and gay men rarely look further down than your chin. This goes for gay women also. If you find a woman stealing a ‘peek’ at your chest area, likely thing is they are gay too.

15 signs to find out if your guy is gay – Ethan Kent

Have you ever had a nagging suspicion about your man’s sexual orientation? Use these signs to know your man better, and chances are, those subtle moves of his would become a lot more obvious in no time.

#1 He isn’t interested in sex with you. Now this is not reason enough, but it’s only the start of many more signs. Sometimes, a man could be in a happy marriage for several years and enjoy a great sex life before he realizes that he’s gay and likes men. Has your man lost his passion for sex even if you try new ways to keep sex exciting?

Is he a wonderful and understanding partner who likes spending time with you, but avoids kissing passionately or breaks away from the kiss within a few seconds? If he’s not interested in other women, there’s a good chance that he likes another guy.

#2 He stares at men. You catch him staring at men when he thinks you’re not looking. This would be particularly more obvious on a beach when there are a lot of men in their bare minimum, or while clubbing when he keeps sticking his butt back to graze other men.

#3 He talks dirty. All of us love talking dirty or thinking dirty in bed.But does your man have a few sexual fantasies that turn him on more than others? Does he like it when you talk about sexual scenarios where he’s sexually involved with other men? Experimentation may sound tempting and exciting, but if a gay fantasy is the only thing that turns him on a lot, you may have to ask him to tell you about his fascination for other men.

#4 He flirts with men. Girls may sweet talk each other. Guys don’t. They never ever do.  Guys don’t compliment other guys. In fact, they don’t even try to be nice to each other. They use straight words and say what they mean, even if it comes out wrong. Only a man who’s sexually interested with another man would try to flirt with another man.

#5 He likes it in the ass. A guy who gets excited by homosexuality would definitely like something in the ass when he’s having sex. Does your man enjoy getting penetrated by your dildo more than he likes penetrating you? Guys love penetrating. If a guy enjoys getting penetrated more than getting penetrated, he’s obviously going to like a real boner more than a plastic toy up his ass.

#6 A lot of his friends live in the closet. If a man has a lot of friends who are closet gays, there’s a good chance that he too may be one. We’ve all heard that line, birds of the same feather flock together, and that adage has almost always held true.

#7 He enjoys the attention of other men. Does your man enjoy watching other semi-clad men when he gets the chance? Or do you catch him “accidentally” flashing to a guy, be it on a vacation or somewhere else? Straight guys may like attention, but only if from the opposite sex.

#8 He watches a lot of gay porn. Straight guys watch gay porn now and then too. Curiosity is watching one or two gay action videos now and then. Sexual pleasure is when a guy watches more than ten gay porn movies in a row.

#9 Gifting time. He buys expensive gifts for a few of his guy friends. You may assume it’s because of the bond they share, but if he’s constantly buying little luxuries for a good looking cute male friend, chances are, your man is hitting on him. After all, homosexual men have to woo their lovers too.

#10 Secret conversations. Have you ever felt like you just missed something when your man’s hanging out with another man around you? Do you find your man indulging in suspicious non-verbal communication with his male friends, perhaps a lingering gaze, a touch that lasts way longer than necessary, or a man to man hug that just feels weird?

#11 He doesn’t talk about gays. Now there are two kind of gay men. Some men go to great lengths to talk about how normal it is to be gay. And other men get snappy and rude when you talk about homosexuality. It’s a reflex action thing. Intense emotions always bring out intense expressions.

#12 He crashes in a friend’s place often. It’s easier for a man to have an affair with another man than to have an affair with a woman. Nobody ever thinks it’s weird for two men to sleep in the same room. But does your man spend a lot of time with a particular friend? If your man likes hanging out with a friend several weekends in a year, and you can’t recollect this friend ever dating any girl, it’s definitely alright to get suspicious.

Some guys find it easier to use the excuse of fishing trips and hiking weekends to enjoy a good man to man weekend. And some other guys go out of town over work to hook up with guys they met online.

#13 He gets very touchy with another man. This is especially obvious when he’s drunk. When a heterosexual guy’s drunk, he may use this excuse to snuggle up with girls he has a crush on, not with guys. But if a guy’s not straight in his sexual orientation, his will to be subtle about his affection for another man who’s present with both of you may not be strong enough. And he may end up saying or doing something that gives his secret away.

#14 Walking in on him. When you just step into your place and walk in on your man and his friend, do they behave in a weird way like they’re trying to cover something up? They may be planning your secret birthday party. But if you constantly catch them in an awkward moment, it’s time to bring out the nanny cam.

#15 Trust your instincts. This is as simple and easy as it gets. Trust your instincts. Almost always, if you can think it, it has a good chance of being true. But even if you do think it, have a few valid reasons to justify what’s on your mind. Don’t jump to conclusions without proof or justification.

Signs your guy may not be gay

#1 He wears tight clothes and bold patterns. He’s probably just confident about his appearance.

#2 He grooms himself. Just because a guy’s aware of cosmetics and tweezers doesn’t mean he’s gay.

#3 He loves girlie things. He may just be fascinated by women.

#4 He doesn’t like sports. There are many guys who don’t give a damn about sports.

#5 He’s a neat freak. Being a perfectionist or one who likes everything in order doesn’t make him a homosexual man. He may just be more refined and neater than the average guy.

If you’ve been wondering about how to tell if a guy is gay, use these 15 signs and if you can strike off more than a handful of these signs, there’s a good chance that there’s something happy and gay in the air.

ETHAN KENT
Ethan Kent lives a semi-nomadic life traveling the world. And in between his pursuits of the elusive ah-ha moments, he loves exploring the minds of men and wome…